Sometimes, when death is approaching, people become more open or able to talk about their final wishes. This can be a cathartic process for a family facing the loss of someone special. This conversation can include whether the person wants to be buried or cremated, what style of funeral or memorial service they envision, who should speak, and whether or what kind of meal to be served after the services.
Having this conversation accomplishes two important objectives. First, it ensures that your loved one’s wishes are known to the family, which reduces the possibility of conflict after the passing. Sometimes, we see family members with different ideas of what the deceased “would have wanted,” which can lead to unnecessary conflict during a very difficult time. Knowing what your loved one’s wishes are alleviates that burden.
Second, making the arrangements prior to the passing means that the family has fewer details to manage during a trying time. Whether you’ve had a few weeks or a year to prepare for this loss, the days after your loved one’s passing will be exceptionally challenging. Knowing that you’ve focused on the details prior to that time can provide a small measure of relief.