Losing a parent can be a crippling event for any person. A parent serves as your guide and inspiration, no matter what type of relationship you have with them. Losing them brings in a lot of questions that one should be prepared to cope and deal with. Whether you are given ample time to prepare, or if the death is accidental or unexpected, there are a few things you should know so that you are prepared.
When coping with a death, most will go through a mix of emotions. You may be sad, worried, scared, shocked, or confused. An empty feeling is sometimes experienced. Your emotions might feel a bit stronger or deeper than usual or you may experience completely different feelings than you have ever experienced.
Typically the sadness experienced from the loss of a parent will be more significant than that of others. Furthermore, everyone is effected by death in a different way. Some people find they have trouble concentrating, sleeping, or eating when they’re coping with the death. While others lose interest in activities they had always enjoyed prior to the loss. It’s quite common for some people to resort to “losing themselves” in computer games or excessively eating or drinking. And some people just feel numb, as if nothing has happened.
In order to overcome grief, one should greive and mourn whenever the need arises. Masking emotions in an effort to look tough or to protect others will only extend your grieving process. The more you share and the more you talk about it, the easier it will be for other people to help you move on. Do not be afraid to ask for help and accept help, since it is really a time when you need support from your family and friends.
The most important thing in accepting the death of a parent is to reconcile with the perpetrators, whether a disease or an actual person. By lessening your grudges against these elements, it will be easier for you to recompose yourself and achieve the peace of mind you need and want.