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Frequently Asked Questions About Headstones and Grave Markers

In many cases, when a family experiences a loss, the number of things to be decided with regards to planning end-of-life services is overwhelming, in addition to being completely new territory. We recently had a customer ask us for additional information on headstones and grave markers, and we decided to expand upon the topic for all those who may have questions about the process, but haven’t asked. 

What are my options for headstones and grave markers?

Whether you choose a full burial or cremation, one of the many things you’ll need to decide when a loved one passes, is how their final resting place will be marked. There are a variety of options available through either a monument provider or your funeral home.

Our preferred monument partner, Manchester Memorial, provides gravestones, custom cemetery memorials, grave markers, headstones, upright monuments, flush or flat markers, and family estate mausoleums. In addition Phaneuf offers bronze memorials, upright monuments, granite markers and accompanying vases to meet your needs and/or to serve the wishes of your loved ones.

What should people expect when working with a monument company?

Different monument companies will have different processes for quoting and creating customized grave markers for families. Before shopping for a monument provider, we recommended that you check with your cemetery to find out if there are any special requirements you should know about for grave markers. For example, a granite headstone may be appropriate in some sections of a cemetery, while bronze may be more appropriate for other sections, such as a memorial garden.

Most monument providers understand the importance of creating a unique and personalized grave marker as a memorial to a person’s life. Monument specialists typically meet with families to discuss different design options, requested inscriptions, size specifications, and more. From there, they will work to meet your needs and wishes, while adhering to any cemetery restrictions or guidelines.

Can the funeral home help me decide what to mark a loved one’s resting place with?

Certainly. With so many choices available for color, size and quality, selecting the right marker can be an overwhelming task. Most funeral homes are more than happy to assist you with making a decision.

Phaneuf provides families with a variety of options and suggestions based on the preferences of family members, close friends, and expressed wishes of the deceased. We can connect you to recommended providers in the area, who can further assist you with making this important choice.

How long is typical and reasonable to decide upon and get a marker?

Although there are no set rules as to what is considered a normal amount of time to decide upon and get a marker, some cemeteries do have restrictions with regards to how soon a marker can be laid. In addition, certain religious customs and cultures may have required ceremonies around laying the grave marker, which could possibly affect the timing.

How long does it take to get a marker made?

It often takes some time for markers to be created, especially if you are having a special inscription or other lettering engraved. In some cases, it can take several weeks to create a marker, and then additional time for shipping. The best thing to do is to ask the company representative for specific information, but you can estimate between 4-6 weeks, on average.

Can I add to an existing headstone or marker?

Yes. If you want to add something a little extra special to a headstone or grave marker, we can and do make arrangements to add lettering and/or inscriptions to existing monuments and markers.

What is the typical cost of a headstone, grave marker or monument?

Costs will vary based on the materials used and the type of marker desired. In order to get a specific quote for pricing, we’d recommend that you contact a representative so they can get the specifics and give you the most accurate pricing possible.

Can I pre-order a marker?

Yes. Headstones and markers can be pre-ordered as a means of ensuring that your wishes, or those of a loved one, are carried out. It can also lighten the burdens placed on children and family members once someone has passed.

  • Braden BillsReply April 4, 2017 at 1:09 pm

    I want to make sure that I get the right headstone. I didn’t know that there were so many different options! It seems like bronze is a pretty good material for this kind of thing, since it’s so durable.

  • Troy BlackburnReply April 6, 2017 at 6:40 pm

    That’s a good point you make about how some markers take longer to make because of special inscriptions or other letters. I’ve heard, too, that you may want to consider having a flower holder included as part of the headstone so that you can leave a bouquet for your loved one. I’ll be sure to keep this great information in mind as we try to make a great headstone for my late grandmother.

  • Lillian SchaefferReply April 7, 2017 at 3:42 pm

    I like how you mentioned contacting your cemetery to see if there are any special monument requirements. My family is trying to get a monument together for our mother, and we want it to be something that will last. Perhaps it would be a good idea to make sure that what we decide won’t be prohibited in the cemetery she’s in.

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